Cady Groves and Debby

So today, I went looking.

I was curious.

Last night / early this morning at around 3:00 AM, I found in Cady’s directory the pictures she took with Debby Ryan. These are important, at least to me. A looooong time ago, I loved Debby, too, and trusted her. Her recommendation of Cady to me was IIRC a major part of the reason I decided to try a fling with Cady.

So- I went looking, on Debby’s twitter. I was curious.

There was nothing about Cady, of course. I also tried Chase Ryan- Debby’s brother, who once made a song with Cady. Nothing there, either… I guess. There was this message, though, left on May 4th, the day Cady was reported by the news to have passed: “Don’t take your family and friends for granted. Every day we are alive and well is a blessing.”. Hmmmn.

Well.

You know, I don’t venture out into the twitter world anymore, and it’s easy to see why. Twitter is just so ugly. And confusing as shit. Seriously; content aside, I could not make heads of tails of either Debby or Chase’s feeds. They both looked the same- same font, same background, same page layout. The timelines were confusing as fuck. They both had a variety of pinned tweets from themselves and others from different times, even different years, that were not in chronological order, I think. I can’t be asked to figure that shit out; the content isn’t worth it, and it’s brutal on the eyes. Yuck.

God, twitter fucking sucks. It would take hours to figure out Chase’s twitter feed. Why is there a list of strange tweets from 2019 before a list of tweets from 2020? I mean, like WHY? Not even how. What the fuck was he thinking? And why is that even possible? It makes reading his feed with comprehension impossible.

Debby’s is not much better, I think. I think, because I refuse to bother verifying that opinion.

And the content…. yeeeeech. Ugh, good lord. Looking at what I saw this morning, it’s a wonder that twitter is even managing to hang onto being in the top 50 websites. They have a loooooong way to fall. Remember when Salon.com was one of the most visited websites on the net? Yeah. That’s your future, Dorsey. Be afraid. Be very afraid.

Just… oof.

The content on Debby’s feed ranged from the soulless and corporate to the dumb and communist, and not much in between. Half of her tweets were just advertisements for this or that, with the other half being politically myopic “Black Lives Matter” horseshit. I don’t want to get drawn into politics again, but just to give an overview, it was just junk about Breanna Taylor, or whomever, who for all I know might be just another in a near-endless string of “white violence” hoaxes. Not any mention of course of any of the many innocent whites that have been in reality, actually murdered for real by crazy blacks lately, like that 5 year old boy that was gunned down by that black nutcase for riding his bike in the wrong spot, or that other young kid that was thrown off the ledge in a mall by yet another crazy black for… I guess, looking at him wrong? Who the fuck knows, blacks are just nuts.

Blah blah, yeah, that BLM stuff is junk and everyone knows it. Stop the presses, I know. And I know that she probably has to post this stuff if she wants to get hired. So… I get it. We all are forced to do things we don’t really want to do, from time to time.

But it’s still just so dreadfully unappealing. Debby’s twitter used to be so fun. I remember it from way back when, when she barely had 10k followers. I think I still have her old twitter wallpaper somewhere. You know, the selfie tiles?

She was fun. And her old insta? Whoisdebbyanyways? And her old tumblr, also Whoisdebbyanyways? Which yes I still have, because it ruled. It was touching, and cool. By the way yes, “Who is debby, anyways?” was something I said when I met her for the first time. Yeah, she was great. I was the guy who transitioned her out of that old website that her mom ran and into being a modern celeb. It was fun, so fun. No regrets. Her music made it worth it. Those moments we shared on social media made it worth it. She was such a great friend. Beautiful, fun, and so personable. I felt like I could tell her anything, back then. Now… nope, lol. Who knows who she even is, anymore- the real her, the wonderful Debby I loved, isn’t up there, on twitter, that’s for sure. At least, I hope that that isn’t what she became.

I remember so clearly having fun with her and Peyton and the rest of the cast on the set of Jessie. PeyPey and Debs were both on… ahhh what was it, not yfrog, not insta, but one of those old, now defunct photo sharing sites. Maybe it was Whosay? This was back in 2011. I think I have it in my notes, somewhere. I still have the pictures, at least. Whoever it was didn’t allow for direct downloading, so I remember the hoops I had to jump through to get their pics to download, lol. I cursed them- I think it was like 5 minutes of work for a picture, but the pictures were so high quality compared to what else was available at the time that I just gritted my teeth and bared it, lol. God tho, so much fun. So many laughs and good memories. And The Never Ending? So cool, that was.

To go from that to what I see now is just… ick. Debby… seriously? What the fuck?

I don’t know. Maybe I didn’t know her as well as I thought I did.

Who knows… not me. I never will.

Probably better that way.

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